Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Bad Things Do Happen at The Hair Salon: The Coily Hair Edition

"So here's my dilemma, do I say anything--or do I let her continue to destroy my hair--and all of the progress that I've made so far? What would you do?"

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If you've ever had to ask yourself that question while at the hair dresser, then this post is for you.

So today is a follow up to yesterday's post where I vent about our salon visit. Yes, the plot thickened, and I can honestly say that I was "ready" for the usual crud that goes on in these salons.

You see, unfortunately, learning about techniques and products that address all of the different types of curly/coily hair is NOT required training for a salon to be able to accept naturally coily haired clients. That being said, much goes on that makes absolutely NO SENSE in the curly world.

I have a friend who washes, conditions, and detangles her hair BEFORE she even steps foot into a salon. That way, all that's left to do is use setting lotion and roller set her hair. This master plan helps her to avoid damage to her ends, avoid lots of pain, and avoid regretful tomorrows. She says they always give her the "stink eye", and some stylists are straight up rude to her for doing this. I don't see why anyone should care, she's still paying good money. If there's any problems with the roller set (such as product build-up, hair not cleansed properly)--they can always let her know that was done by her.

I wish I had done this before I went to this salon. In all actuality, I wish I had never went to this salon. Going to a Dominican Salon in a "country" part of town is most definitely risky business. How much practice they've gotten with caring for coily hair may not be suitable for the best experience. I don't want a stylist "practicing" on me--while acting like they are a "pro".

That's exactly what happened in this instance. 
Not only could this stylist not manage my length, thickness, and tightly coiled hair--she could not detangle it, nor could she lay it down on the roller. By the time she wrapped a big mess of hair around the roller, the section was dry and puffy. You WILL NOT get a proper "set" with dry hair--it has to be soaking wet. So by the time I got from under the hair dryer, my hair was still a bit thick, and ashy--not sleek and bouncy as a wet set is supposed to be.

How Disappointing.

In regards to the improper detangling (using a wide tooth comb, starting from the roots, ripping and pulling), what did I do, you ask?

I asked her if she had a paddle brush. When she showed it to me, I asked her if I could show her an easy way to detangle my extremely curly hair. She was not happy, but I did it in a kind way so as not to "embarrass" her. I was the one being embarrassed by the way she was looking like my hair was breaking off her arms.

I showed her how to wet the hair, start from the ends and slowly work the way up the hair shaft. She seemed to have filed away a new tool for detangling coily hair in her mind--but she definitely wouldn't let me know that I knew better than she did. After all...she's the professional.

Would YOU take the brush away from a "professional" and detangle your hair? Or, would you sit quietly and let the stylist finish detangling (no matter the breakage, pain, and destruction to your hair). 

NOT ANYMORE. I sat by quietly for too long, while letting these professionals damage my hair. Most of the time I had to go home and cry (or be very upset). This applies to relaxer applications, hair trims that turn into haircuts, bad color jobs, and much much more. This is not limited to coily hair types...any woman can experience bad service at a hair salon. 

I just know now that I will keep my eyes open, and respectfully relate my wishes. After all, it's my hair.


Until Next Post................................................................................................................Tia

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

How to Avoid STRAIGHT UP FOOLISHNESS in the Salon: Coily Hair Edition

It's been about 2 years since WE last stepped into a hair dressing salon (or whatever they like to call it these days). And I have soon to find out that the story will never change.

So T and I decided to skip on the blow dryer this time around, and go to the Dominican Salon and get our hair roller set. We would enjoy a nice scalp rub (the wash), get a little conditioning treatment, and then have the famous wet set at a local Dominican salon (name to be withheld) LOL!

When I called on the phone to make the appointment, I let the stylist know that I would be getting a wash and roller set. I advised her that my hair is "tightly curled". She acknowledged that she has "done natural hair before", and it's no problem.

When we (T & I) arrived at the salon, it seemed to be a different matter--especially in regards to my hair. She asked me if I was sure that my hair is able to lay down on the rollers. I let her know that I've been to a few Dominican salons, where they've laid down my hair on the big rollers, and my hair ends up sleek and straight after the roller set alone.

She looked dubious, but continued on anyways.

Now here's where the problem always begins: She didn't know how to detangle my hair without breakage. My ends were snapping, popping, flying everywhere. She was detangling my hair with a wide tooth comb--and she thought that would solve my detangling woe's. Truth be told, I don't have detangling woe's. My hair is easily detangled with a paddle brush so long as it has been properly conditioned.

So here's my dilemma, do I say anything--or do I let her continue to destroy my hair--and all of the progress that I've made so far? What would you do?


--find out what I DID DO.
--let me know what YOU WOULD DO (Or have done)
--More dramas from the salon. Next post to outline some ways to avoid the drama if you decide to even visit a salon